Suzi Moonlight

Since this is going to be about a blog I read last night, I’m going to file it under Night Person.

I read a few blogs, not many. I read one by a science fiction author. Someone sent me the link to check out, and I like it. I read Hollywood Actor. That blog has a lot of drug references. I’ve never done any drugs, don’t plan on doing them. Coffee. Coffee is my drug. I used to have a fascination with heroin but, like gambling, I wouldn’t go near it. I don’t know that I’d have a weakness for either of them, but I’m not going to find out.

I also read the blog of a musician. I hope there are a lot of blogging musicians, because I don’t want this to point right at him. He seems a decent fellow, and the blog seems genuine. I usually enjoy finding a new post on it. Last night, I read his most recent post. There were a couple paragraphs that stuck in my craw. They were followed by a sentence that didn’t make sense. It didn’t make any sense. It seemed vague and random. I went away from the post a little confused.

It probably wouldn’t have meant too much to me. Some guy I don’t know saying things about girls he dated. Sometime this afternoon, that changed. I realized his post had the scent of the same thing my brother does wrong. Like my older brother, he seems to be a smart man. He dates girls and doesn’t understand what went wrong, why they don’t get what he’s offering. Why don’t they take him seriously? Why don’t they see things the way he does?
He last dated a woman who withheld some pretty important information and, after thinking they were boyfriend and ‘girlfriend’ found a picture of her making out with her boyfriend on her blog. What does this tell you? If you’re a guy, you probably just think he got burned – big deal. If you’re a girl, you’ll probably come to the same conclusion I did. He was dating a much younger woman.

He’s in his thirties… let me wiki him… yeah, 37. What woman in her thirties would post a picture of her making out with someone on her blog? What woman in her twenties? That’s a very teenager thing to do. That’s what you’d expect to see on a glitter-pink myspace page, not an adults page.

My older brother? That’s the same kind of thing he falls into – dating younger girls who aren’t emotionally mature. Not teenagers, mind you, just a lot younger than him, in age and mentality.

I can’t make too much of a fuss about it to my brother, because he knows I’ve only dated younger guys since I was in my mid-twenties. But, I go for youthful, not juvenile.

The musician goes on to say he won’t date women outside of his area. So, he’s not really looking for someone to fall in love with, someone to really connect with, the [blank] that will end all [blank] – he’s looking for someone convenient.

My brother does this as well. However, my brother travels a three-state area almost daily, so he has a little wider ‘girlfriend range’.

The sentence at the end of everything he said? The sentence that seemed random at the time? That’s what really bothered me, once I realized what it meant. He describes how he sees marriage. Hold on ladies, you might not be able to get this concept. It’s so complicated and different from what we all know, our pretty little coral brains may pain us. His concept? The whole ‘in love’ phase of a relationship goes away after a while and a strong bond forms. The couple becomes a team, a unit. Love, replaces ‘in love’ and the relationship is the better for it.

Personally, I’ve always referred to it as someone who I’m willing to bury the bodies with. Sure, I’d chew the guy out while I helped dig. Question his reasoning. Tell him if he does it again, he’s digging his own holes, but I’d break a sweat and cover the mound. I have had people look at me strangely for saying that, but that’s only because of the whole ‘dead body’ part. Geez, can’t a girl kid to make a point?

He ends his unique and rare description of marriage that, from what I make of it, would better be called… well… marriage – in its most basic form, with a sentence that explains everything.

“I think I’m looking for a genius.”

Translation: the majority of women are so stupid they don’t understand the concept of marriage as a partnership and are giddy girls hoping for flowers and sunshine all the rest of their lives. Only a genius would know otherwise.

Argh! Only emotionally immature people would think ‘in love’ is a relationship. Only very young girls. If you pick green tomatoes, you have to expect them not to be fully developed.

For [musician] and my brother – neither of them will ever see this – for ALL GUYS – date women closer to your own age. Don’t date immature girls. If you do, don’t expect young girls to be loyal – they have oats to sow, and you’re going to get hurt. You don’t have to date old women to find someone who’s emotionally mature. Hopefully, you’re smart enough to know better.

Yes. Yes, I know why this bothers me. Yesterdays post is not far from my mind. I’m self-aware enough to get it… thanks. The point, is still valid.